Humour

Humour or humor is the ability or quality of people, or situations which will evoke feelings of amusement in other people. It’s a form of entertainment or human communication which evokes such feelings, or which makes people laugh or feel happy. The origin of the term derives from the humoral medicine of the ancient Greeks, which stated that a mix of fluids known as humors controlled human health and emotion.
A sense of humour is the ability to experience humour, a quality which all people share although the extent to which an individual will personally find something humorous depends on a host of variables, including geographical location, culture and maturity, level of education, intelligence, and context. For example, young children may possibly favour slapstick, such as puppet shows or cartoons e.g. Tom and Jerry. Satire may rely more on understanding the target of the humour, and thus tends to appeal to more mature audiences. Non-satirical humour can be specifically termed "recreational drollery".
Humour is a part and parcel of everybody’s life. We find a person humuourous when he gives an alternative or surprising answer, that which shows relevance and can explain a situation. In this context, humour is often a subjective experience as it depends on a special mood or perspective from its audience to be effective.

A good sense of humour should always be there in person. Humour would always create an atmosphere of joy and excitement among the people. However, here in this blog I would like to speak about the downside of humour which is rather happening quite regularly. I usually meet up with my school friends, college friends, old colleagues or our company friends. Humour frequently contains an unexpected, often sudden, shift in perspective. Nearly anything can be the object of this perspective twist. You’re standing in a group, talking, and one of the members starts shooting verbal “zingers” at you. Everybody gets a hearty laugh at your expense. Everybody but you. Light (and not-so-light) humor has become almost a national pastime. When you’re the butt of the jokes, you may try to shrug it off as harmless, but it stings is what I have realized over a period of time. Even I was one of the person who was more keen and interested towards throwing slapslick jokes at others. Now speaking to some of my close friends, I am realizing the downside of it as well. And if you’re the one getting laughs at others’ expense, i may not realize what you’re revealing about yourself.
I am strongly realizing the fact that “Verbal Humour on others is Not Funny” When I attended one of the training sessions, across teams and groups, I was always struck by one behavior that stood out above all others, namely, the propensity for many of the members to consistently engage in making sarcastic remarks to and about others in their group or on their team. Even within our friend’s circuit where even I am part of the group feel somewhat depressed by the end of it. Why are we doing it anyways? What You Say Matters The comments which I have listened is directed were directed at folks’ physical characteristics (hair, clothes), perspectives or ideas, life choices (food, others’ choices of restaurants, movies, sports teams), folks’ current performance, and even where others had worked or attended school. These were not simply run-of-the-mill light comments which can be shrugged off quite easily.
On more than one occasion, I had to do a “double-take”, and ask myself, “Did I really hear that?” “Did he really say that?” “Did she really throw that zinger at him?” Boy !!! What continually came to me was “Why? What is this all about?” In Western culture today, the biting, sarcastic, demeaning put-down has become an art form, everywhere ­ TV, movies, talk radio, sports events, journals and magazines. It’s part of the fabric of everyday conversation. And more, many folks today see such behavior as “business as usual”, as “no big deal.” There’s Always A Reason to the statement. In most cases including myself in the loop, we engage in put-downs, sarcasm and barbs as a way to look smart, witty and cool. That’s the upside for them. The downside is that the person for whom the comment is directed is often harmed, hurt, demeaned, or otherwise made the point of ridicule.We need to definitely realize that no matter how sharp one is, how educated, how senior in the hierarchy one is, how wealthy one is… no one has the right to strive to look witty, smart, sharp or cool at the expense of another human being, at the expense of being disrespectful to another human being.
I was made to think seriously about this topic after looking over a article from Peter G. Vajda.
After reading his article, lots of questions is pondering over my mind repeatedly.

1. Is the main reason for the personal humours today is the feeling of "insecurity" which happens in an individual?
2. Is the main reason being to dominate the group?

Now, as even I am the culprit here, I am trying to discuss what I am trying to do here. This is the major part.

Probably the most important conclusion would be to:
1. We need to start getting more concerned about our family and work.
2. Ignoring it to the best possible.
3. Speak out being affirmatively when it hurts others.
4. Maintain the difference and the distance.

Always I need to remember that whatever I speak or do will get noticed somehow or the other and will boomerang back. Probably as I am a culprit too, need to first start altering my life in a better way.